In Part 1, I walked through the four social scripts hiding underneath the word “bullying” — and why each one demands a different response. Now I want to show what that response actually looks like. The following is the framework we use in class.

It collapses every possible form of aggression into a single word-and then leaves the child standing in the middle of it, knowing’s what to call the situation but having no idea what to do about it.

Training religiously for 90 minutes, three times a week, totals 4.5 hours—about 11% of your waking week (assuming 52 hours). No matter how intense those workouts are, they can't outshine the other 89% of your time. During those remaining hours, your eating and resting habits either amplify or undermine your training efforts.

Since we were only halfway through the cards and he had time before his fight, he invited me to watch the fight in the stands with him so he could further explain. I was on cloud 9. To have a master share their knowledge with you happily is one of life’s greatest gifts and this was one of them.